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  • A .world user singular, complaining about .ml users plural. I’m complaining about the regular pattern of some users and it is frequent.

    This is a regular narrative that all .ml users are tankies so are not worth engaging with and yeah, it is insulting.

    You don’t know me and that’s fine. I’m not sure why your recognition of me is relevant? Am I irrelevant if not known? There are 10s of thousands of users on Lemmy. I put time into moderating 2 big communities here for the greater good, but hey, because I’m on this instance, I’m seen as “tankie” scum.



  • User on .world account complains about .world moderation.

    This isn’t a new problem, folk have been warning about it for a long time on Lemmy. Folk didn’t want to hear it. I personally have zero confidence in their moderation. The cases I saw lacked impartiality and occasionally maturity. There are better instances. .sh.it.works for example.

    I cannot imagine an organisation that appointed these moderators/admins would do particularly different on a mastodon server.

    Best you can do, is move away from .world so folk see there is more out there to the fediverse than them. All eggs in the .world basket is a scandal waiting to happen.



  • This is whatabouttery. I care about Darfur, Myanmar, Tigray, etc. That doesn’t take away from what is happening in Palestine.

    You have yet to describe why any of those situations are worse than flattening schools, hospitals, collapse of healthcare, full blockade of food, medical supplies, water, people living in camps where disease is rampant.

    How is Iran killing a number of civilians worse than killing civilians, starvation, disease, shooting babies in the head?

    All your post is doing, is showing bias, and a lack of care about what is happening there. The problems is you cannot persuade someone to care about human suffering, and if you don’t, why should I engage with you in a logical debate?

    Your problem is, you don’t care, and you want people to be fine with you being fine with children being shot in the head. You’re on a left-leaning platform where people give a shit about their fellow man. People who give their time to work on open source generally have empathy as a core view.

    Post your pro-Israel views on Xitter, or reddit and you’ll get the validation you prefer. Its an echo chamber close to yoir political persuasion. You enter a place that think differently and prepare to be challenged. Ultimately, if you want to be an empathetic human being, prepare to be wrong. Can you handle that? Your bio suggests you won’t engage if downvoted. I’ve not down voted you, but I’ll tell you you’re wrong. I say you’re wrong because I’m giving you the benefit of the doubt and I’m assuming you’re not evil.


  • When the pattern of behaviour gives very clear indication of intent, the denial of this indicates that either you’re in favour of it, or don’t think it’s a bad thing.

    When what folk see makes them feel sick to their stomach, such as a child being shot in the head, or families being shot in line for food due to a scarcity created by those making the people line up like animals, it’s going to elicit a visceral response. I personally could not fathom how a human being with functioning empathy could be fine with that.

    You’ve already stated you like discussing with people of privilege. That I’m alright, Jack attitude when it comes to life and death is pretty disturbing. What makes us feel is what makes us human.







  • The thing that bugs me is how selective the study is. The amount of dads that were broken, took their life or were not far from it, and to pick one small study focussing on how mums were negatively affected by it is galling. It’s like studies on the impact of police discrimination faced by white men. Contextually an insane and insulting use of academic funding.

    It’ll be used to further rebalance the courts further away from shared parenting and the child’s right to access both parents which is a UN right and Scandinavia does far better. The experience for fathers is traumatic.

    I don’t envy you. Keep going, and even when things look bleak, keep going. Things can turn out positive, even against the odds and even with the most biased CAFCASS staff. Not sure it’s relevant to you, but I’ve heard Both Parents Matter (formerly Family’s Need Fathers) is an excellent charity for support and advice.

    I will say, not everyone can do academic studies. Some don’t have the qualifications, or lifestyle situation or credibility to do anything that would be any more than an online blog and with far less impact. It is more than fair for someone to comment on the studies shared. Isn’t that what this community is about?